Ok, ok, I’m going to come clean: I have NOT lived up to my previously stated goal of writing a blog & sharing tips and tricks to keep on your New Year’s goals every week, as I said in February’s post…not even every 4 weeks…more like every 6. BUT – that’s OK. I’m not going to beat myself up about it because I’ve not met my goal, I just know I’m not making it a habit in my life (again, see February’s post).
But here is what I have to share today, something called THE POWER FORMULA:
RESULTS = THOUGHT + COMMUNICATION + EMOTION + ACTION
In a nutshell: the results you get (and should expect to get) are the product of these 4 things. If you put negative or poor quality things in, you’re going to get negative or poor quality results out….if you put positive or high quality in, you’ll get positive / high quality results out…pretty simple.
Thought: AVOID NEGATIVITY! Stop with the media already – they want us to be captivated, and the human mind gravitates toward negativity as a self survival mechanism: “If my life / existence is being threatened, I must act!” Surround your brain with POSITIVITY – inspiring music, great podcasts, uplifting movies / TV shows (are there any?), etc..
Communication: LEARN TO DO THIS, WELL, and OFTEN. Lots of new research is out showing that life fulfillment & joy is directly proportional to the amount of good, quality relations you have with other humans (i.e. communication). If this is a challenge for you, look into sources of help: books, talks, seminars (there’s a TON of this stuff on the web)…a few I recommend: http://www.success.com/article/10-ways-to-be-a-better-communicator; Compassionate Communication or NVC (www.cnvc.org or our local group www.Ashevilleccc.com); books How to Win Friends and Influence People or Ask More.
Emotion: GET THESE UNDER YOUR CONTROL! When emotion is high, intelligence and the ability to make quality decisions is low. Do NOT make critical decisions when you are in a high emotional state. Get them under control. Deep breathing helps stimulate the “calming” part of the nervous system. Also removing yourself physically from the thing causing your high emotions – go for a walk, go to the bathroom / drinking fountain, whatever you can do in the moment to calm yourself down before reacting / making a decision.
Action: This is often the hardest thing to do. First, find out your base nature: are you a high action-taker person or not? One way to determine this something called the KolbeA index test (www.kolbe.com). It is a test that will help measure your tendencies towards actions, reactions, and interactions. It is very helpful, especially if you’re a leader or boss or director-pay the $50 and take it!
Hope these tips help!
Now go out there and become a better YOU!